When I first started blogging I don’t think I could have possibly imagined what the blogging community would be like, if anything I would say I was quite naive. Don’t get me wrong, I have made some of the most amazing friends, met people that have changed my life and seen some of the most beautiful acts of kindness I have ever seen before. The majority of bloggers are wonderful and I couldn’t imagine my life without them.
However lately, I have been noticing that there are so many bloggers are not willing to help someone out when they reach out to them publically.
A couple of weeks ago I posted on a couple of different Facebook groups that I was looking for some feedback on my Instagram account as I wanted to improve and gain more followers. I was expecting (out of 1000’s of members) that at least five or six people would comment with some honest, constructive criticism. They didn’t even need to visit my profile or follow me as I included a screenshot of my latest Instagram photos in the Facebook post.
In the morning I woke up to 32 notifications and I was in complete shock! How could that many people want to offer me advice? When I clicked on it however I could see that I was mistaken, nobody wanted to help me at all. Instead, I had 32 bloggers leaving the links to their Instagram accounts in the comments saying things like “I’d love it if you could follow me” or “you can find me here”.
Nobody had actually read my Facebook post properly. They literally couldn’t see past the words ‘Instagram’ and took it as an opportunity to gain another follower.
I couldn’t believe that people had looked past the fact that I was asking for feedback and thought I had posted a ‘like for like’ post – another thing I can’t stand about some Facebook groups for bloggers. I really feel like bloggers are becoming more and more reluctant to help each other out lately.
What ever happened to just helping each other out and giving honest criticism?
Is it really all about the followers?
I want to point out that this does not apply to all groups and that there are a number of Facebook groups for bloggers where people are always willing to offer advice and help. My favourites are #TheGirlGang and UK Bloggers, and if you’re not already following these you should definitely check them out. nc