For a long time I have been conscious of how many times a day I apologise, and to be honest, even in one day alone the word sorry comes out of my mouth a hell of a lot.
I naturally say sorry for pretty much everything I do ”Sorry I forgot to pick up some drinks on the way home”, “Sorry I look so terrible today, I overslept majorly” or “Sorry I’m only just replying to this message, it’s been a hectic week”. It’s almost like it’s programmed into my brain that I have to say it at the start of every sentence, just incase someone is offended or hurt by something I say, do or even how I look.
Well, this week I have realised that actually, I don’t have to apologise for half the stuff I do - because they are the things that make me who I am and I actually kinda like some of them.
I’ve realised that we all need to live life to our own standards, rather then the ones we think have been set for us, and stop apologising for things that make you who you are.
If you say sorry as much as I do I also think the words start to lose their meaning, so those times when you really are sincerely sorry, the value of the words ‘I’m sorry’ means so much less.
From now on I am going to try and save those words for the times they are really needed.
So, here are some things I am definitely not sorry for:
- I’m not sorry that some days I wake up late and don’t want to put on makeup before I leave the house. It’s perfectly normal to prefer that extra half an hour in bed.
- I’m not sorry that it sometimes takes me days to respond to a text message or email, or that sometimes I forget completely until I am reminded by another message.
- I’m not sorry that I don’t always stick to my diet 100% and that some days all I want to do is watch Netflix in bed with a tub of Ben and Jerry’s.
- I’m not sorry that I don’t talk to everyone or I can be awkward in a social situation - it’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t have something in common with everyone.
- I’m not sorry I can’t walk as fast as everyone else or that I struggle to keep up when you’re walking at a normal pace, I try and that to me is enough.
- I not sorry that I post a lot of pictures of my cat, he’s my furbaby and I will always be taking pictures of him.
“You will alway be too much of something for someone: too big, too loud, too soft, too edgy. If you round your edges, you lose your edge. Apologise for mistakes. Apologise for unintentionally hurting someone - profusely. But don’t apologise for being who you are”.
- Danielle LaPorte
What are you not sorry for?
Lots of love,