I am at that age now where most of the people around me are getting married, settling down and having children. I see a new pregnancy announcement on Facebook at least 2-3 times a week it seems and despite people asking me “when is it your turn?” having children right now is not my main priority.
I don’t think I have ever had a ‘maternal’ side to me and for as long as I can remember I have always been a very career driven person. I worked hard at school to get good grades, did extracurricular activities to help get into University and although it was a hard three years, I graduated with a 2:1.
Even since graduating I have strived to find new ways to keep learning and to keep on bettering myself so I can have the career-driven life I have always dreamt of. I’ve started my blog, I’ve taken several different courses and I try my hardest to learn something new at least every day.
Don’t get me wrong, some people can have their dream career and raise a family at the same time but that is just not me. I admire the people that are able to do this, but right now I want to put 100% of my energy and my focus into me and my future, as selfish as that may sound.
When I think of everything I want to achieve in my future I don’t picture a family, I picture myself as a successful business owner or in a position of power at a well known agency. As much as society thinks I should picture raising a family, it’s just not there for me at this moment in time.
Yes, I am in a loving, long term and committed relationship that is constantly evolving each day, but that doesn’t mean that we should be at the stage where I want children just because everyone around me is having them. We both agree that there is so much more we want to achieve before we have someone else to care for, we’re just not ready. How can I be responsible for someone else when I feel like I still need to grow myself?
I think that maybe further down the line, when I have achieved my career goals and settled down in a place I love I may be able to start to thinking about starting my own family. Whether that’s in two years, five years or even ten years – I don’t just don’t know.
All I know right now is that my main focus is me and that’s okay.