#BloggerTikiParty - We Need to Talk

 Most of you probably already know that I host blogger events in the West Midlands and yesterday I hosted my fifth at Island Bar - the #BloggerTikiParty. The event was definitely one of my best and I had an amazing time spending time with some of my favourite bloggers, while drinking lots of yummy Pina Coladas.

However, if you’ve been keeping up with the hashtag on Twitter you may have seen that on my way home from the event I had a couple of things I wanted to say. I don’t feel like my anger towards the lack of respect some people had is fully gone, so I needed to vent in the best way I know how.

Before I go into more detail, I just wanted to say that this blog post does not apply to everyone. There are a lot of people that were supportive, kind and wanted to make my day a hell of a lot easier. These are the bloggers I am proud to say I am part of.

So, here are a few of the things I noticed happening both during and after the event.

Bloggers that no show
This is something that has happened at every event I have hosted, however I am not going to be so accepting of it anymore. I put A LOT of effort into these events and there are always people on the reserve list wanting a place. By having your name on the list I am holding a place for you. If you know a month, two weeks or even a day before the event that you can’t make it any more LET ME KNOW.

I send plenty of email updates and give people the option to let me know they can’t make it, so anyone that just doesn’t turn up to an event from now on will be automatically blacklisted.

Taking more than allowed
The goody bags I had put together were really quite big, so I struggled to fit the larger items in them. I thought it would be a good idea to pop the things like subscription boxes and individual brand goody bags out on the spare tables with a cute little sign that said ‘Please Take ONE. Don’t forget to tweet the brand’ next to it.

I thought this meant it was very obvious that you could only take one, as there was only 40 of each and 40 bloggers due to attend. With all of the last minute drop outs and no shows there were 32 people attending all together (without the extra few that managed to sneak in). This meant that there should have been around 8 of each item left over at the end of the event, however people took it upon themselves to take more than they were entitled too and leaving a lot of bloggers coming up to me saying they didn’t manage to get one of everything.

I trusted people by putting things out for people to help themselves however I will NOT be doing this at any of my future events as it’s down right disrespectful to think you’re so self entitled to be able to take something away from someone else just because you want to go away from an even with as much as you possibly can.


Turning up when you’re not on the list
Unfortunately the day before the event I had to go to A+E to have a tetanus shot after my cat attacked me, so that meant I was a little bit behind on things and I completely forgot to print out a guest list. Being the trusting person I am I thought this would be okay. 

This ties in with the point above as it accounts for a number of the extra items that had gone (although not all of them as people still went without), but it also meant that I ALMOST ran out of goody bags.

As we were strapped for space in the car I left a couple of goody bags behind knowing that people had dropped out that morning, so even with the three or four spare I took I still ended up having only enough and got in a big panic when I thought one of my friends that attended were going to go without a goody bag, especially when they always put in so much effort reviewing everything.

So either a few people sneakily came along to the event without an invitation, or people stole goody bags when I was not looking. I don’t know which is worse to be honest. 

Leaving as soon as goody bags have been given out
I decided to give the goody bags out a little bit earlier this time around, so gave them out just after the raffle at twenty past three. I was so shocked to see how many people left after I had given them out as by half three there were only around 30% of attendees left, most of which were my close friends.

I know some people had to head off and get trains, which is fine, but it did dissappoint me seeing how many people got the bags and just left. It made me feel as though that’s the main reason people attend, rather than the chance to network and make new friends. Who cares about friends when you can get free stuff, right?

I have heard about this happening at events before, and it absolutely disgusted me - how can someone steal something thinking it’s okay? There were two incidents of sticky fingers at #BloggerTikiParty, one of which included some of my personal belongings.

I’d very clearly set out the raffle prizes across the back of the room in a row, however people still thought it was okay to help themselves because ‘they didn’t know they were raffle prizes’, Thankfully I managed to see someone taking something, so I politely asked them to put it back and they alerted me to the fact that lots of other people had been helping themselves too. This is UNACCEPTABLE.

Not only was the raffle a charity, but stealing is a crime and if I knew how had been taking things I would have been taking it much further than an angry blog post.

I also brought a pack of twenty five coloured Sharpies to the event so people could sign the cute little guest book I had. By the end of the event I had EIGHT sharpies left. Yes, I know they are ‘just Sharpies’ but under no circustance did I say to people coming in “sign the guest book and help yourself to a pen”. Are people really after free stuff that badly that they’d take a pen?

I’m not proud to be part of a community of blaggers, rather than honest and trust worthy bloggers.

Overall I shocked, appalled and disappointed with the behaviour of some bloggers that attended the event yesterday. No, I don’t have a clue who any of the culprits are but if you’d like to come forward and apologise I’d really appreciate it.

Thank you to everyone who showed me support yesterday both at the event and afterwards on Twitter. I love you all. 

Lots of love,

Kirsty Leanne
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  1. July 11, 2016 / 1:25 pm

    I know just how much effort you put into events and how stressed and under pressure they make you. I can't believe what a bad experience you had at this event which meant you couldn't totally relax and enjoy yourself like you deserve to! But aside from everything, you did a fantastic job and I'm so so proud of you. I can't wait for the next one. I bloody love you. And yes don't you worry, I'll do a lovely review 😉

    Ami xxxxx

  2. July 11, 2016 / 2:32 pm

    Being new to blogging I've never been to an event but from reviews and tweets I know that there's so much behind the scenes setting up for each one, I can only imagine how heartbreaking it must be for you to have each and every one of these things happen. I hope that in future I can make it to an event and that everyone there will be the kind, friendly and respectful bloggers I think I've met so far over social media.
    Amber xx

  3. July 11, 2016 / 3:08 pm

    It's so horrible to hear that people are so disrespectful of such a lovely event! It's obvious you, and all those who organise bloggers' events, always put so much hard work into making them so enjoyable, so for people to ignore that and act so shamefully is appalling. I hope that this is a tiny minority of the blogging community, and am glad you had a lovely time anyway 🙂 Good luck for events in the future! xxx

  4. July 11, 2016 / 3:14 pm

    I haven't yet had the opportunity to attend a blogger event but I do know how much work goes into organising any event. It's shocking that people behave like this. Hope any future events you are involved in are much better.

  5. July 11, 2016 / 6:31 pm

    I'd be way angrier if I were you, I can't believe the cheek of some people. I'm sorry there was a few bad apples that spoiled it for you, I hope the halloween event goes much smoother!

  6. July 11, 2016 / 7:39 pm

    This really disappointed me! I've never been to one of your events but all the effort you put in and this what you get!

    Discussing! I hope they come forward.

    Love your blog btw

    Amy xx

  7. July 11, 2016 / 11:02 pm

    Oh my goodness Kirsty, I really don't know what to say to this. I hope that this doesn't put you off because your events are awesome and you put so much effort into them. It's just so said to think that some people spoil it for others and give bloggers a bad rep. Big hugs.

    Laura xx | Loved By Laura

  8. July 12, 2016 / 10:05 am

    Ugh, I can only imagine how disappointed you must feel after putting in so much time and effort! On the up side, the event sounds like it was lots of fun, so well done for putting it together xx

    Laura | Lala London: Beauty & Lifestyle

  9. July 12, 2016 / 12:29 pm

    OMG this is absolutely shocking. Can't believe this happened you created such a fab thing and people have just totally ruined it. I didn't attend the event but wow how can people be so rude and disrespectful. Really hope you'll still host events as idiscussed love to attend in the future.

  10. July 12, 2016 / 9:34 pm

    Honestly can't believe what I'm reading here. You set up a wonderful event and all people did was take advantage of it! I hope you still managed to have a good time, Holly xo

  11. July 12, 2016 / 9:51 pm

    That's so sad to hear that after all the quite obvious effort you put in! 🙁 I love a good freebie or bargain but to take full advantage of this is really quite selfish! I've only been to one blogger event and I enjoyed the event as a whole, it was a nice day out and not all about the freebies. I hope you are okay!

  12. July 12, 2016 / 11:46 pm

    The blogging community always seems so lovely, but clearly there are a few baddies around here too! I find it very unnerving that these people will put on a false smile and carry on, they don't belong in a community if they behave like that.

    So sorry that this dampened your day, but if it's any consolation, I saw people excited for months and weeks before the event, then saw plenty of tweets from people saying they had had an amazing day!

    Be proud of yourself. I hope those cat scratches heal soon xxx

  13. July 24, 2016 / 4:24 pm

    I'm so sorry and angry to hear that this happened at your latest event 🙁 it's so disappointing that people in our little community could act like this and I know personally, from two of your events how much of your effort goes into it and how much you try to make everything perfect.

    The events I've attended have both been pretty bloody amazing and hopefully aside from the awfulness noted here, this one was too! I've seen other peoples posts and it looked fab!


  14. August 15, 2016 / 12:31 pm

    I’m speechless! I can’t believe people act like that in every day life let alone at an event! I’ve only gone to one blogger event so far, my goodie bag was handed out as I was leaving, which made sense to me, it weeds out the people who are only there for the free stuff.

    I’m so sorry that you had to experience that!