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Be Kinder to yourself this Spring

March 10, 2017

Be Kinder to yourself this Spring

March 10, 2017

Today has been so sunny and although I have been stuck sat at my desk at work, it has made me realise that we are getting SO CLOSE to Spring.

Although I have already set some goals for the year, I feel like a new season is a perfect chance to set some mini goals. A year is a long time and more often than not, I find my dreams and values have changed in the short space of twelve months.

In just two months since I made my goals, I have already realised that I need to start being kinder to myself.

I know I went into this year with a lot of determination and dreams, but sometimes I feel like I need to give myself the benefit of the doubt, as I will quite literally run myself into the ground if I don’t start learning how to be kind to me.

“Three things in human life are important: the first is to be kind; the second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind.” Henry James

So, here are a few of the ways I am going to start being kinder to myself this spring.

? Read books that help me grow.

I love reading and always have.

I honestly wish that I had more time to curl up with a good book – but when I get home from work and by the time I have sorted my blog admin, the last thing I want to do is read.

In an attempt to be kinder to myself I want to start reading more books about well being, motivation and growth – similar to Wake Up,  which I started at the beginning of the year.

? Make more time for me.

Working in the day at my full time job and then coming home to work on my blog all night means I rarely get any time to myself at the moment. As much as I enjoy what I do, I really need to start managing my time better so that I can spend more time doing that make me feel both relaxed and happy. 

This could be watching a movie with my boyfriend, going for a walk or having a huge Sunday night pamper session. I really want to start a routine where from a certain time on a Sunday I switch off from the internet, stick on someone my favourite movies, eat a whole load of snacks and enjoy a bath with all of my favourite natural products. Doesn’t that sound like heaven? ?

? Don’t blame myself when things don’t go to plan.

Sometimes, my life doesn’t go exactly how I planned. 

I am constantly making plans and goals for the future and when they don’t go as planned I end up feeling so disappointed in myself, even if it’s something that was completely out of my control.

I think I need to start telling myself that even if something doesn’t go the way I originally wanted it to, it might lead me on to something even better. 

? Stop trying to make everything perfect.

This is something I actually realised while on my recent holiday to Paris, especially our trip to Disneyland in particular.

For weeks and weeks before I was worried about what I would wear so that the pictures looked as incredible as every one else’s do when they visit the magical kingdom. Surprise, surprise though. IT CHUCKED IT DOWN THE ENTIRE TIME.  ?️

I looked like a drowned rat in a poncho in 90% of my pictures and I really don’t care. I had the best day and regardless of what my pictures look like to the outside world I couldn’t have been happier.

? If I want something and I can afford it, treat myself.

I don’t often deny myself of the cheaper things (think lots of Primark and Makeup Revolution), but I want to start treating myself to things that are worth a little bit more. I’m not talking Louis Vuitton here, but the occasionally Too Faced palette wouldn’t go a miss.

Oh and holidays, I am going to be booking myself lots of little breaks because I can.  ✈️️

? Eat and drink the things that make me feel good.

I love junk food (who doesn’t?) but afterwards it doesn’t make me feel great. I really need to start eating the things that I know make me feel great afterwards.

This doesn’t mean I’m going to eat perfectly all the time, it just means I am going to eat what I want, whether it’s good or bad.

? Believe in myself.

I thought I’d end with the most important one.

Although I have high aspirations and goals, I don’t always believe that I will be able to achieve them. I spend a lot of my time thinking I’m not good enough and that those kinds of opportunities are only made for certain types of people, one of which I am not.

Starting today, I need to start telling myself that I can do this. ?

What could you do to be kinder to yourself this Spring?

Kirsty Leanne

xoxo

  • Kate March 10, 2017 at 8:14 pm

    Believing in myself is something I really need to start doing more often! It’s so important. X

    Kate// itskaterose.com

  • Aimee Cottle March 13, 2017 at 5:16 pm

    What a great post – I think we could all do with being kinder to ourselves! Good luck with your mini goals 🙂

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For those of you that are new here, this time last year I announced my first international group trip created with plus size travellers in mind. For obvious reasons, however, I had to cancel it earlier this year. It felt as though it was my biggest career achievement to date and honestly, I am gutted that it hasn’t been able to go ahead as planned 🥺😢

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When it comes to shooting new content I’ve been feeling really uninspired lately and honestly, I think it’s because I usually find my inspiration in travel and discovering new places ❤️✈️

Summer has been and gone and I think I must have only taken a handful of photos. I felt like I was putting pressure on myself to create when I didn’t feel like it, so even when I did try to self shoot the photos didn’t come out how I wanted 🤷🏼‍♀️

Thankfully, Autumn is well and truly here and I’m feeling really really motivated to start taking photos again. It’s my favourite season for both the colours and the fashion, so I feel like it’s a time of the year where my ‘at home’ content always starts to improve a little 🍂

As I’m not going to be travelling anywhere for a while, I feel like this is going to be the year to embrace my Autumn content even more (starting with this gorgeous @joanieclothing dress) ❤️📸 

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So, as I haven’t mentioned it here yet, last week I started working for a new job on a part-time basis! 👏🏻 I’ve been doing lots of training and getting used to my new schedule so unfortunately, Instagram fell behind a little bit. I feel like I haven’t had the time to develop content ideas or create new Reels for a couple of weeks now and when I finally remember to post, it’s gone 10pm and far too late to consider posting 😂

I’m finally getting the hang of things again, so consider this post an accountability post to say that I’ll be back to posting properly ASAP 🥺✌🏻
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Side note: next time I go to a Disney park, will someone please remind me to wear something practical? I looked cute but oh my god, it was so WARM 🥵 #plussizetraveltoo
    • “PLUS SIZE GIRLS POSING IN BIKINIS ARE PROMOTING OBESITY. THIS IS NOT OKAY”❌
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So, earlier this week I shared a video of myself in a bikini. It was the first time I’ve ever worn a bikini to the beach and honestly, I was super proud of myself for taking a big step personally on my journey 👙
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Over the course of the last few days I have a lot of positive and supportive comments from people but of course, when a video on Instagram gets a lot of views, it starts to attract those that think those in a larger body than them shouldn’t be allowed to live their best lives on social media.
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They’re the people who, no matter what I’m doing, tell me I’m promoting obesity by sharing videos and images of my body online 🤷🏼‍♀️📸
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These comments don’t phase me anymore, so....
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JUST FOR A LAUGH, I DECIDED TO DESIGN THE PROMOTING OBESITY MAGAZINE COVER, JUST TO SHOW HOW RIDICULOUS IT ACTUALLY SOUNDS WHEN PEOPLE SAY THIS 😂👏🏻
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By posting videos of myself travelling and enjoying myself, I’m not saying HEY EVERYONE  YOU SHOULD ALL GAIN WEIGHT AND I WON’T BE HAPPY UNTIL THE WHOLE WORLD IS FAT LIKE ME. I obviously recognise that there can be health complications for some people, but size does not indicate your health and health does not indicate your worth. 
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Every single person on this planet deserves love and respect and I am going to continue to fight for that every. single. day. Just because someone lives in a body that is bigger than yours, it doesn’t mean that can’t live the same life that you do publicly for fear that people are going to come for them online.
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When people say we’re promoting obesity what they really mean is we’re promoting loving yourself at any size. We’re promoting happiness. Following your dreams. Travelling the world. Finding confidence. We’re promoting the life that everyone deserves to live.
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Honestly, I didn’t realise a video of a happy fat girl in a bikini was going to make people so mad 🤷🏼‍♀️👙 #plussizetraveltoo
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2020 really has been a whirlwind but I am so so thankful for all of these small, happy moments ✨#plussizetraveltoo

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The link to read is in our bio ✨#plussizetraveltoo
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This is one of the most common questions I get asked both here and on Tiktok, so I thought I’d create this video to help 👏🏻
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1) Log onto seatguru.com
2) Pull up your flight details on Skyscanner (or the site you use to book your flights)
3) Enter the name of the airline and select the carrier you’re flying with from the drop down menu
4) Enter the date you’re travelling and the flight number (if you have it)
5) Take a look at the seat map. You can see the seat layout, the seats closest to the toilets, the ones with the most legroom etc
6) Click info at the top of the screen and scroll down, here you will see the width and pitch of each seat for each available class
7) If needed, scroll through the customer photos to get an idea of what the pay looks like from a user-perspective
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I hope that helps! If you have any questions, please ask below and I’ll do my best to answer 👇🏻❤️ #plussizetraveltoo #plussizetravel #plussizetraveltips
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“LACMA URBAN LIGHTS: Created by Chris Burden, the Urban Lights have been outside of the Los Angeles County Museum Of Art for almost 12 years. There are a total of 202 1920's lamps and 309 LED bulbs that make up the incredible structure. We visited during the day but as the sun starts to go down, no matter what time that is, the lights will turn on. When the sun comes back up again the next morning, they turn off thanks to an astronomical timer. Since their installation in 2008, they actually haven't missed a single night”
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Find out what else is included by clicking the link in bio 📸: @fordtography #plussizetraveltoo
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At the end of the day, when we were talking about how great of a time we’d had, planning more days like this, I suddenly felt kind of nostalgic for all the days I’d missed. All the times like that one, when all everyone wanted to do was have fun, but I got too in my head about it to let myself enjoy.”
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The link to read the post is in the profile bio ✨#plussizetraveltoo
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“As a plus size woman, I did not feel embarrassed as the hammam I visited had women of all shapes and sizes. No one judged or batted an eye. I was the only woman with dark skin there, however, but still no one seemed to care and were too busy enjoying their spa experience. It was just a normal day for the women who lived there as this was something integral in their culture. I quickly realized that my fears and insecurities stemmed from being judged in America, but that Moroccans were much more accepting and unbothered. I just had a body, it was nothing to gawk at or laugh at, as I had imagined. It was serene to simply be allowed to exist without feeling ostracized. It was also a confidence boost to walk around practically naked while indulging in spa treatments.”
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Katrina, from @globalmidwife shared her experience over on the Plus Size Travel Too blog. To read more, visit this link in our bio 🌍 #plussizetraveltoo
    • EXCITING LAUNCH TIME 🌍✈️❤️
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So for the past few months I have been mentioning a ‘secret project’ and after lots of hard work, the launch day has finally come. Although I know was supposed to launch last week, I had a number of setbacks and I wanted to ensure everything was perfect before I put it out into the world 🥺
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SO, WHAT AM I LAUNCHING?
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Today is the launch day for the Plus Size Travel Too website, a safe plus for plus size travellers to find inspiration and advice when it comes to their travels ✈️
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Although I regularly post plus size travel content on my own website and blog, I wanted to create a space that was dedicated specifically to plus size travel, rather than it being mixed in with all of the other topics I cover. It’s a place for community, as plus size travellers are also encouraged to submit their own advice and experiences too 🥰
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To celebrate the launch day, there are already some INCREDIBLE posts live. These posts have been submitted by @cardifforniagurl @thetravelcurve @thecrownwings @globalmidwife @gemmaslittleworld @livingwonderfilled @rhianwestbury and @leabellablogs ❤️
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I’d love it if you head over to www.plussizetravel.com (the link is in my bio) to have a read of their awesome work and if you can, spread the word about the launch. Wether you’re plus size or not, you never know who may benefit from something they may read ✨ #plussizetraveltoo
    • 🌈 HAPPY PRIDE 🌈 although celebrations may be a little different this year due to COVID-19, we want to know how you’re celebrating in the comments! 👇🏻
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Here at Plus Size Travel Too, I’m celebrating by donating to Mermaids - a charity that supports trans children and their families! If you want to do the same I’ve popped the link in my bio (as well as links to 12 other organisations you can donate to today, or any other day of the year!) 🌈📸: @readytostare #pride

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